I don’t believe people need improving.
I believe much of what we call change is the freedom to become more fully expressed.
This work comes from deep within. It feels entirely aligned with my soul, but it did not begin as a system I wanted to teach or a suitable career I selected.
It grew from questioning what I had been told was true, why we become the people we become and what remains when inherited definitions begin to loosen.
I do not believe there is one fixed, finished self waiting to be found. I believe there are ways of living that are more or less edited, more or less governed by fear and more or less freely expressed. Coaching, to me, begins there.
Before I knew I was editing myself
I grew up in the Irish Midlands and had a great childhood, filled with sport because, largely, that was what we had.
But around the age of seven, I discovered dancing at home. I watched Britney Spears and her dancers on VHS, copying every movement until I knew the routines in complete detail. Rewind, play, rewind, play. I performed at talent shows, family events and competitions, even winning at All-Ireland level.
I loved art too, and I was good at it. By secondary school, however, I had understood that dancing was considered feminine or gay—something boys were not supposed to do. I stopped. I also chose not to study art, partly from a fear that it might reveal something about me before I was ready.
Golf became a place for my energy and ambition. I loved the game and became a highly accomplished competitive player. That part of me was real, but it was also a world in which I understood how to belong.
Freedom changed the questions
I came out as gay at 22, while at university, and my world turned upside down in the best possible way.
People dressed as they wanted, moved as they wanted and kissed who they wanted. I had never seen freedom like it.
Seeing trans people, drag performers and queer people living openly expanded what I thought a life could look like. Their freedom took nothing from anyone else. It made more freedom imaginable for me.
University was where I came out of my shell as well as coming out as gay. I met people who lived life as I had dreamed of, made friendships that felt real and began exploring Dublin as myself.
That freedom made me question the beliefs and definitions I had inherited: why people believe what they believe, why we restrict one another and how easily something we were told becomes a life we never consciously chose.
A route that makes sense from the inside
I studied Mathematics, Geography and Sociology at Maynooth—patterns, people and the worlds we create around them. I then spent five years working in digital marketing, drawn to its combination of business, creativity and expression.
Working for a company never quite scratched the itch. Alongside it, I began building a life-coaching practice, initially from a pure love for the work and from the extraordinary presence and awareness I had begun to experience in my own life.
I trained at Kingstown College, completing its Advanced Diploma in Mental Health & Wellbeing Coaching with Distinction.
During a difficult period, with Covid arriving at the same time, I took refuge in golf and began training through the PGA. Golf gave me focus, friendship and community. It eventually brought me to London, where I qualified and built my own coaching business.
Golf gave me craft, community and a livelihood, but it could not contain every part of me. Rather than leave the game, I began creating the space I wanted to see within it. LGBT Golf grew from that decision.
Each chapter may look different from the outside. To me, they are connected by the same movement: towards creativity, autonomy and spaces where people can develop without having to edit themselves.
What I found in stillness
I originally moved towards life coaching after experiencing a period of extraordinary clarity and presence. It was the most powerful inner experience of my life. I wanted other people to encounter their own version of that freedom.
Years and hundreds of hours spent in meditation gave me a felt sense of being less separate from life. What emerged often felt less like learning something new and more like meeting something that was already there.
We came from the Earth. We did not land on it.
Taoism gave language to what I was experiencing. I had encountered approaches built around changing the thought, choosing the goal, making the plan and pushing forward. Some of that can be useful. Taoism showed me something deeper: genuine movement comes from the person, not from something placed upon them.
My meditation centres on F.E.A.R.: Face Everything and Rise, a phrase tattooed on my back. For me, facing does not mean conquering or forcing. It means becoming still enough to meet reality without immediately escaping it.
You do not need to share my interest in Taoism. It shapes how I listen and work; it is not something I ask clients to believe.
I am not here to improve you
I do not see people as broken or as objects requiring optimisation. Patterns, circumstances and choices can change, but coaching does not manufacture a better person. It helps loosen what limits you and free more of what is already there.
Goals and plans have value. My work begins one layer earlier: before deciding what to pursue, we examine whose desire it is, what has shaped it and what your life is actually asking of you.
Alignment does not remove effort or discomfort. It removes some of the inner division that makes action feel forced. Practical movement still matters, but it follows clarity rather than replacing it.
To me, success is feeling full and whole within yourself. No achievement, title or material reward can substitute for that.
In the room, I listen closely, question directly and challenge you when something important is being avoided. My experience as a gay man shapes the freedom I protect in this work, but it does not limit who the work is for.
The aim is not to turn you into somebody else. It is to allow more of your life to come from you.
Why this work now
This is not a reinvention or an escape from golf. It is a return to the questions that have always animated me.
Finding my way back towards presence has required deeper honesty and expression than before. I am not returning to the coach I was. I can bring more of myself to the work now than I could then.
This work is me. It doesn’t belong to me.
Private coaching
My coaching is for people willing to meet their lives honestly. We may work with goals and practical action, but we begin with what genuinely belongs to you, what is being lived for somebody else and what becomes possible when the difference is clear.